My counsellor side:
You can't make a man out of a party boy unless the boy wants to become a man. Don't play the victim of the situation otherwise you will continue to suffer in pain because of your unrealistic expectations which will drive you to stress. The pain then becomes internalized rather than properly expressed and is misdirected inward towards self-destructive habits or you give youself permission to indulge or reward yourself. 5 hours sleep is not enough for a healthy human. Losing more sleep won't change the situation. There are only four options in any situation: (1) Change yourself (2) Change the situation (3) Tolerate the situation, or (4) Leave. My recommendation is to stop making your boyfriend responsible for your feelings. Sit down and write out all of your worries right now on one page. Then fold it and put it away and get some rest. Wear earplugs so that you aren't woken up when he comes home. In the morning let him know that you need to talk to him in the evening about some important "feelings" you have about what happened. Meditate and breath before starting your work day and don't drink too much caffeine. Concentrate on work and let your mind focus on the tasks rather than on your tiredness or the previous night. In the evening have a good meal and then choose an appropriate time to sit down and talk with your boyfriend.
My other side:
Sorry to hear this is happening. Life is tough sometimes.
25 ago. 07 por el miembro:
jakes